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Shocking But True ~ Some Good Advice!!
25 March, 2008
How to get girls frm orkut
By ME
Published 25/03/2008
How to get girls frm orkut I hv noticed many times that girls on
orkut start a small conversation through scraps,add you as friends and
then after a day or two they stop scrapping and also replying to yr
scraps.
They are INTERNET TIME WASTERS.
Plus geography is a killer when it comes to dating. Only date
someone who lives within a 35 mile radius from you (Or is planning to
move to your city). This is written in stone. Why? It's ineffecient.
You spend months or years talking online, than you meet face to face
and realize - she realizes you are not her type physically. Or she
meets someone in her town, falls in love with him, and you wasted all
that time chatting.
Because until you met face to face(!); in person (!) you haven't
passed physical attraction test. And until you pass the physical
attraction test, nothing REALLLY starts.
So if you do use the internet, first of all she has to live in your
town, secondly after four or five e-mails she has to be willing to meet
for coffee. And at the end of a short coffee date you ask her for her
home phone number to test her Interest Level. But if she is not ready
after a few e-mails/scraps to meet in person, she is just an INTERNET
TIME WASTER, and is not looking for a date, just to screw with people's
brains online.
WHich is OK if you got no life. We are all part of the hypocricy...
wait 3 days before responding to her message. usually you wait 5 – 9
days to call but this is internet so you wait 3 days to message/scrap
back. no chatting!
don’t give too much personal information on your profile.
just say girls like your sense of humor, you are a confident
guy. if you give too much info – you are an open book. if she knows
everything about you, she wouldn’t want to meet you for the coffee
date, get it?
have some real pics on your profile taken by a professional
photographer. 3 pics on different locations is enough. one formal one
wearing a suit.
keep the messages short, sweet and funny. you can tell if she is
interested by how long her replies are. if she gives monosyllabic
replies she is not interested. if she gives long replies and tries to
help you, and plays along with your jokes, she is interested. but of
course none of it counts until you meet face to face. you may not be
her type physically. after 3 – 4 messages, you ask for her home phone
number, but its ok for her to refuse, because she hasn’t met you in
person yet. than you ask her to meet you for coffee. give her
directions to the place and the phone number of the place in case she
gets lost. you spend 30 minutes bantering with her, than you ask her
for her home phone number again.
if after 4 – 5 messages she is not ready to meet in person, she is just an internet time waster. move on to a new adventure.
try to line up 2 – 3 consecutive coffee dates in a row with
different girls from the internet in the same shop. this way you don’t
waste your time getting there for just one girl.
HER INTERESTS usually you have to fish for that stuff. here you got
that information right on her profile! dooh! but make sure you keep it
funny and light, stay off the heavy subjects (politics, religion, sex,
race)
It’s black humour and terror film directed by Mitchell Lichtenstein.
It was released in 2007 in Sundance’s festival. The movie Hill be
released this year and is about the idea of making real the urban myth
of the “toothed vagina”.
The movie treats about a virgin girl who discovers that in her body
there is something different. Her vagina possesses teeth and this will
gives her an advantage when she turns into a victim f the masculine
violence. The protagonist soon Hill Start repudiating men and taking
advantage of her physical difference to attack them.
The “toothed vagina” is a classic mythological symbol of men’s fear of
sex. It appears in the mythology of countless cultures and societies
down through the years. Looking into, entering the female orifice seems
fraught with hidden fears, signified by the confusion of sex with death
in overwhelming numbers of male minds.
We are about to finish a new LUST FILMS production. We will tell you
more soon, because now we are very busy with the last days in the
studio. It’s a minimalistic documentary, where six people show us their
intimacy, including their true personality and their real orgasms. It a
project in collaboration with La Maleta Roja, Late Chocolate and Jailhousefuck. More pictures and trailer coming up in a few days.
At last our movie FIVE HOT STORIES FOR HER is available in the Pay Per View Theater of HOT MOVIES FOR HER
Here you can read the five texts that HOT MOVIES FOR HER’s reviewers have written about the movie.
We’ve decided to do something a little
different because we are totally in love with Erika Lust’s latest
movie, Five Hot Stories For Her. Instead of trying to cram all of our
praise into one little review, we’re going to review each scene
individually every Monday for the next 5 weeks. Since I won the jello
wrestling competition, I get to go first!
Violet Blue, sex writer, has recently published Best women’s sex
2008. This is her third volume and there are 21 steamy erotic stories
where women are the protagonists. Nevertheless, Erotica Readers and
Writers Association has said that “These stories aren’t only
erotic—they’re also enjoyable for their strong characterization and
clever narrative devices. Sex is different for each of us with every
experience. This anthology is a glorious celebration of all those
wonderful and warming differences.”
Violet Blues
is a good friend and sex columnist for the San Francisco Chronicle, and
is also the bestselling author of seven books on sex and sexuality. She
also writes about erotica, pornography, and sexual pleasure and health
for various magazines, and she is a trained sex educator in Berkley
University.
Founded in 2002, CineKink is an organization that recognizes and
encourages the positive depiction of sexuality and kink in film and
television, most visibly through its annual film festival, CineKink NYC.
Featuring a specially-selected program of films and videos that
celebrate and explore a wide diversity of sexuality, with offerings
drawn from both Hollywood and beyond, works presented at CineKink NYC
range from documentary to drama, camp comedy to hot porn and everything
in between.
In addition to screenings, the annual festival also includes a short
film competition, audience choice awards, presentations, parties and a
gala kick-off fundraiser, all followed by a national screening tour.
I admire Diablo Cody, she is only 29 and she just won a Oscar for Best Script for JUNO, an amazing movie, written by an amazing woman. We really noeed more like you Diablo.
A new VIVID ALT movie, the alt-punk-indie label of Vivid.
When four aspiring starlets find themselves in the seedy underbelly
of show business, their drams of stardom turn into a living hell. Once
deemed damaged goods, they end up fending for themselves in the margins
of society.
Now hardened, restless and with an insatiable appetite for revenge
and ultra violence, they take control of Transaction Junction, the main
intersection used by the purveyors of vice to supply Hollywood s demand
for contraband.
Their lucrative racket is at ris when the completion of the freeway
bypass threatens to take away their control of their Hollywood
connection.
No one gets in or out without paying their dues!!
And on top of all, the movie has an amazing soundtrack, look:
THE GOOMEN -Damn Good ‘n’ Ready
FIRECRACKERS - Break Out
THE TIJUANA BIBLES - Big Belt Buckle
CHUY AND THE BOBCATS - Hard Headed Homan
GISELLE,LUIS ARRIAGA - Baby Please Don’t Go
GISELLE - Chills And Fever
SANTOS - You Gotta Move
LUIS ARRIAGA - Wild In The Heat
LUIS ARRIAGA - Hammond jam
LUIS ARRIAGA - A Bailar
CANDYCRASH - Heartbreaker
Within almost ten years in business Goliath, now located in Berlin,
has established itself as a highly acclaimed international publisher of
diverse and often daring photography and art books unafraid to
introduce controversial, erotic and subcultural perspectives to modern
life.
It all started with a photo book about the UFO phenomenon. This was
way back in 1997 in New York. Goliath had finally landed. Ever since
then Goliath has been fighting to make the world a visually better one
with publishing books about The Sexy, The Weird And The Extraordinary.
They don’t believe in pornography, but in fun and art – and of
course in good photography. Boredom is the first cardinal sin. This
explains why they never specialize, but have a wide interest in
challenging perspectives and visual entertainment.
Amongst their illustrious society of artists are names like the
north-american subculture documentalist Charles Gatewood, renowed
erotic photographer and punk-rocker Dave Naz, the Belgian artist Pierre
Radisic, rock photographer legend Derek Ridgers, gender provocateur and
chronicler of the industrial and goth culture Fred Berger, artist and
photographer Paul Smith, many talented amateur photographers with a
fresh view on girls and life, hemp-activist Rob Griffin, alternative
sex’n’punk photographer The Lovely Brenda from New York, retro pin-up
specialist Octavio Arizala or fetish fashion photographer Emma
Delves-Broughton – to name just a few.
Goliath’s variety couldn’t be broadlier based. They often get asked, if Goliath is an “erotic publisher”. “It’s
a yes and no. Yes, we like it naked, who doesn’t? No, we publish art.
Who says art is not allowed to be naked? But it is not all about the
bare naked truths. Our photographers are creative, often multitasking
artists with a sixth sense for style, zeitgeist, new visual concepts
and the unconventional. At Goliath books we are deeply committed to
high standards in production and design as well as to the high artistic
quality of our publications. Our latest brainchild is the stock agency
Goliathimages.com to help to spread and promote the good photography
and art to a publishing world that is full of clichés about the
definition of “erotic”. And that’s the mission we are on.”
Never before have pornography and sexualized material been so
readily available and pervasive in young people’s everyday life. TV
programmes, advertising, and the music industry exploit and play with
pornographic codes and scenarios. The sex industry launches and
promotes its products via youth channels and websites.
How do young people navigate through this pornographic landscape? Does
the omnipresence of pornography breed curiosity or resistance? How does
pornography challenge the role of parents and teachers?
Generation P? provides answers to these questions and presents
a unique body of new research on youth, gender and pornography. The
study shows that the vast majority of young people in the Nordic
countries have seen porn. But young people do not swallow the
pornographic messages without resistance, and some are very critical of
or actively opposed to them.
It is very seldom that the voices of young people are heard in
the public debate on pornography. In Generation P? focus is set on the
voices, definitions and experiences with pornography of young people
themselves.
The book contains contributions from leading researchers from
different academic fields: sociology, psychology, media research,
social work and public health.
The book is published by the Danish School of Education Press and my
good freind Anne Sabo has written really nice words about my last movie
FIVE HOT STORIES FOR HER.
Isabella Rossellini’s short film series “Green Pornos” is probably one of the most talked-about movies at this year’s Berlinale
film festival. The actress and director plays eight different insects
in the 8 one-minute episodes of “Green Porno,” a series made for mobile
phones.
The film has the look of puppet theater, with its sets and costumes
made from material and paper. For example, Rossellini dresses up in a
green tube to play the role of the dragonfly or she glues six paper
eyes to her face and spins a net out of hemp to create a spider’s web
in which the object of her desire can be trapped.
“Green Pornos” was commissioned by the Sundance Film Festival based in Salt Lake City.
Rossellini’s “Green Pornos” is being shown as part of the “Forum
Expanded” section of this year’s Berlinale. Three glass cabinets
contain three mobile phones each, showing the insect sex. The screens
are embedded in tree trunks or in the mouth of a frog. Visitors can
look through a magnifying glass to observe the details more closely.
Interview of Isabella Rossellini at the Sundance festival with film extracts:
Welcome to Lust Films, an adult entertainment production company with a
modern, feminine and feminist approach. We produce movies for women and
couples, TV programs and series, documentaries, Internet content... a
new audiovisual product with style, humor, passion, glamour, deisgn,
and of course… sex.
FIVE HOT STORIES FOR HER is a compilation of five short films writen and directed by Erika Lust. Erika presents five modern, urban, spicy and explicit stories, where the sex takes place in a natural and realistic atmosphere. FIVE HOT STORIES FOR HER
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Here is a selection of sites that we like, enjoy and recommend:
My friends of IFEELMYSELF.COM are hosting hundreds of fresh, natural, modern and cool clips of women having real and intense pleasure.
Punk Rock Pinup Girls In LUST FILMS we are big fans of SUICIDE GIRLS, they were pioneers in showing that a different kind of erotica was possible.
beautifulagony.com
is a place were you can see real people having real sex, and enjoying
thmselves. You will just see their faces, but sometimes it's even more
erotic not to see what they are doing with their hands. Cute bouys and
nice girls, A must see!
LUST FILMS of BARCELONA supports NGOs comabting sexual exploitation
and fighting for human rights for women. We give a percentage of our
annual revenue to these causes and we encourage you to do it also.
Why Is Prostitution Illegal?The oldest question about the oldest profession.
By Emily Bazelon Posted Monday, March 10, 2008, at 7:12 PM ET
Read more of Slate's
coverage of the Eliot Spitzer prostitution scandal. Emily Bazelon was
online on March 13 to chat with readers about this article; read the transcript.
When he was attorney general, Eliot Spitzer had no trouble going after a "sophisticated prostitution ring." As governor, he apparently had no trouble patronizing one.
The hypocrisy speaks for itself. But what about the oldest question
about the oldest profession: Why, exactly, is prostitution illegal?
The
case for making it against the law to buy sex begins with the premise
that it's base and exploitative and demeaning to sex workers. Legalizing prostitution expands it,
the argument goes, and also helps pimps, fails to protect women, and
leads to more back-alley violence, not less. This fight over
legalization has been waged in the last few years over international
human-trafficking laws and proposals to make prostitution legal in countries like Bulgaria,
a movement that the U.S. government helped defeat. In 2004, the federal
government expressed its position: "The United States government takes
a firm stance against proposals to legalize prostitution because
prostitution directly contributes to the modern-day slave trade and is
inherently demeaning." The government also claims that legalizing or
tolerating prostitution creates "greater demand for human trafficking
victims." And yet, prostitution is legal in parts of Nevada, a
companion to other cherished vices.
You don't have to be a
moralist or a prude to buy the argument for banning prostitution. But
if you're so inclined, it's an easy one to take apart. Martha Nussbaum,
a law and philosophy professor at the University of Chicago, argues
that lots of work involves the sale of bodily services and that lots of
the work that poor women do involves bad working conditions. For her,
it's all about context—there's a big difference between a street worker
controlled by a pimp and a high-end call girl who picks her own
clients, and the real question is how to increase poor women's access
to decent and safe work in general. Legalizing prostitution "is likely
to make things a little better for women who have too few options to
begin with," Nussbaum writes.
The
extremely pricey outfit Spitzer apparently used looks like an example
of the high-end trade Nussbaum would distinguish from low-rent street
work. The further defense of such escort services is that prostitution
is inevitable and that conditions will be better for everyone all
around if it's regulated (more condoms, fewer beatings). This parallels
the argument against Prohibition or in favor of drug legalization:
Illegality puts the bad guys and their guns in control. Women who fear
prosecution can't go to the police for help. Better to give women more
recourse to head off abuse and even inspect brothels for health-code
violations.
Would legalizing prostitution increase trafficking?
Not necessarily. "By this logic, the state of Nevada should be awash in
foreign sex slaves, leading one to wonder what steps the Justice
Department is taking to free them," writer David Feingold noted dryly
in Foreign Policy in 2005. Countries in which prostitution is
legal—Australia, Germany, the Netherlands—aren't cesspools. On the
other hand, they haven't seen the demand for prostitution drop off,
either, and sometimes it rises.
That's a disappointment for
advocates of legalization, and lately there's another favorite model.
In 1999, Sweden made it legal to sell sex but illegal to buy it—only
the johns and the traffickers can be prosecuted. This is the only
approach to prostitution that's based on "sex equality," argues
University of Michigan law professor Catharine MacKinnon. It treats
prostitution as a social evil but views the women who do it as the
victims of sexual exploitation who "should not be victimized again by
the state by being made into criminals," as MacKinnon put it to me in
an e-mail. It's the men who use the women, she continued, who are
"sexual predators" and should be punished as such.
In
an effort to quantify, qualify and classify all there is to know about
our sexual omniverse, our sexy friends at Guanabee have attempted to
help every one out there determine just how easy it is to get laid
depending on what country you call home. They've assigned all the major
countries of the Spanish-speaking world (and Brazil) a number known as
the "Country Fuckability Value" (CFV). We're not really sure how it's
calculated, because it's rooted in high-end mathematic theory and
therefore too complex for dummies like us the average blogger.
But we really like the idea behind it, even if what we really want to
know is how accurate it is. To test the system, we've chosen what we
think is the hottest babe from each of the countries in the chart and
lined them up to see how their national ratings translate to real-life
bangability. Granted, some of our choices might not coincide with your
own; after all, identifying hot Uruguayan pornstars is not our strong
suit, and sometimes we've had to resort to national descent instead of
actual citizenship. If you disagree with our choices or the rankings,
defend your nation's honor in the comments. That said, and without
further ado ... let the battle of the babes begin.
(*Ed. note: Yes, we know Spain isn't in Latin America -- but it was
in the original list we based this post on. We also just wanted to
include Penelope Cruz somehow.)
What happen to Maria Sanchez, I mean Jasmine Byrne?
Anyway, they all pretty much blow the top off the fuckable meter!
Vanessa Del Rio(The Belladonna of her era)in her day was as hot they
came. Now fifty plus pounds heavier(and much older), she is still very
fuckable.
Adding Penelope was cool too. The chick looks like a big dish of ice
cream that makes you wanna lick the bowl over and over again.
No disrespect, but this is a pretty fucked up list. Definitely no proper justice done with this list. I'm sorry, what a joke.
I don't get how you compare a Classy Actress / Musician reppin' one
country, and some dirty cumface slut whore reppin' another, and then
comparing the two?
HI, I´m
from Peru, and Marina Mora is not the most beautiful and fuckable girl
here, she was Miss Peru some years ago, but now she´s fat !, really,
appears that some girls earn good money to start eating & eating
and eating.. she have a cute face, good ass, but now she´s fat ! Peruvian princess like Alexis Amore, why not ? she born in Peru. And why not to check this page [www.chicasperu.com] fulled of amateur peruvian girls ?
Honduras
& Mexico leave a smile on my face, but Chile & Cuba have left
me gasping. I am quite fond of Srta Varela, & I have warmed to Vida
Guerra (even if she's prolly a Cuban-American monomaniac that would
talk about deposing Castro even while she makes love).
Also, I will vounch for Coming into the game, the Superstar receiver for your Upper Deck Toronto BbbbbbJjjjjjs.... He's good people. Don't ban 'im.
@
yourfriendandneighbor: Uh, actually youre wrong, the original Latin
country is Italy (roman empire), and if you don't know why then youre a
retard. Your comment might have made some sense had you been talking
about Hispanic countries, and even so I disagree.
Recently
I’ve been having a problem reaching orgasm when I have sex with my
partner. I come easily when I’m by myself, but when I’m with my
partner, I get really close to orgasming, but don’t actually get there.
He is really supportive about trying, but I end up getting frustrated
and stopping the whole thing. What can I do?
-All Out Of Answers
Cleveland, OH
This is a really common problem for women and probably happens to
everyone at least once in their lives. First of all, let me get this
out of the way and say that there is nothing wrong with you.
Since you are able to orgasm by yourself, this is most likely not a
physical issue. If you were unable to come even through masturbation, I
would suggest that you look at outside factors, such as are you taking
any new medications or has your stress level increased recently. But,
since you are able to climax at times, I’m guessing that this is more
of a mental issue.
I’m not sure what may have started your problems with reaching
orgasm, but from your question, it sounds like at this point you’ve
become so focused having an orgasm that you’ve made it almost
impossible for yourself to relax enough to actually get there. This is
where the idea of goal-oriented vs. pleasure-oriented acts comes in.
Goal-oriented sex is what people usually think of when they are
thinking about sex. It’s the basic idea of having sex (or fooling
around/mutual masturbation/whatever) with the goal of orgasm - meaning
that everything is done with the thought of climax in mind. This is
pretty much how sex is defined in our society. Just look at how sex is
portrayed in the media… no one ever just has sex to enjoy themselves -
it’s always about getting off.
Pleasure-oriented, on the other hand, is all about having sex
(again, or whatever) for the sake of getting pleasure from it. There is
no final destination of orgasm or failure if you never climax. People
tend to forget that it is even possible to have sex without worrying
about “the big O.”
I would recommend that you and your partner try a pleasure-oriented
approach the next few times you have sex and see if that takes the
pressure off of you to orgasm. Ban climax from your fooling around and
instead focus on making each other feel good. You can start this
process with a playdate that doesn’t involve genitals at all, such as
massage or focusing on breast play. This forces you to focus on the
erotic aspects of other parts of the body that have nothing to do with
coming (in a traditional sense).
Then, over a few sexual encounters, incorporate more body parts,
including the genitals, but still, don’t let yourselves try to make the
other orgasm. Slowly bring climax back into your sex life when it feels
right to you and when you feel comfortable enough that it won’t feel
like a pressure situation.
Other aspects to think about:
- Has anything changed with your partner? For some people, orgasm is
linked to emotional connection, and when the relationship dynamic has
changed at all, that connection is changed, which can lead to possibly
preventing the same sort of comfort/ability to let go that can be
needed to achieve orgasm.
- Is your partner touching you the same way or is something they are
doing different? Maybe something has changed in the way you like to be
touched? Communication is key to having super hot sex, as well as super
hot orgasms.
- Are you stressed out about other things? Are you able to relax and
enjoy yourself during sex, or is your mind thinking about the work you
have to do, or the house being a mess, or whatever? Even the slightest
bit of stress can sometimes make it really hard to enjoy yourself to
the fullest during sex - and by fullest, I don’t necessarily mean
orgasm, I mean having the most fun you can have at all.
The best advice I can give you is to just try and relax and don’t
let yourself get so caught up in coming. Sex is supposed to be fun and
hot and something for you to enjoy. Try the exercise I mentioned above
and see what happens. You might even learn something new about what you
like and what gets you off!
Remember, it’s not about destination, it’s about the journey it takes to get there. Have Fun.
This is going to be short and sweet with two words: LOVE IT. It’s
jelly, which is the only downfall, but it’s finally answered my
prayers! So picture any of the above - the rabbit, the dolphin (in this case a seal), the beaver thing
, whatever - they’re all nice big and thick insertable vibrators with a
vibrating clitoral stimulator… awesome. Except the clit stimulator is
always oddly pointy, not the most comfortable thing for me. Lovely Rose has a nice bulbous clit stimulator - so much more comfortable and pleasurable (and less creepy than a tiny animal)!
What’s even more thoughtful in the design is that this little part
is big enough to twist around give some nice butt action - vibration
and/or insertion. Hi there! Bonus points, the insertable part rotates
(g-spot action!). You can push the clit stim part away (jelly is good
for something!) and let this part go for a while and still be very
happy. The vibrator has 3 different speeds too, and the rotation and
vibration are independent. Why aren’t more toys like this? Plus, it’s
waterproof. My fave.
The buttons are on the base of the toy. You can sort of feel them,
but I found I had to sneak a peek to adjust the settings properly
without a surprise in changing the action in the wrong direction. But
that’s a minor complaint that can be improved with practice… if only
some guys could be so good!
The only negative (aside from the jelly material, but with the moves
this has, I’ll totally deal): the name and box are kind of cheesy and
if I shopping, I might giggle and pass. Honestly though, I have 2 other
toys to review but I’m stuck on this one - it’s a total keeper. If this
is the kind of toy you like, I HIGHLY recommend it.
Introducing a new monthly guest column by Audacia Ray!! J.D.’s Sex Tips will be back next week :)
I was not a porn consumer or seeker when I was a teenager. Though I
was sexually precocious and promiscuous in many ways, porn wasn’t
really on my radar. In fact, when a high school friend found me on
MySpace recently and discovered that I’d become a porn director, he was
pretty surprised. But since I’m a bit of an extremist, when I began to
explore porn, I really did it up. And I wanted to find porn that was
like me – bisexual.
At my first job in sex, I lucked into a treasure trove of porn with
obsessively categorized videos, magazines, and mementos: the Ralph
Wittington Collection at the Museum of Sex. I started as a researcher
at the Museum and then became an assistant curator the year it opened –
and in addition to jump-starting my career as a sex nerd, being exposed
(ahem) to the wealth of smut in the Wittington collection plus meeting
a delightful array of sex industry legends got me started on my own
personal journey.
Among the carefully labeled boxes that contained videos in plastic
archival boxes, polaroids of enthusiastic collector Ralph Wittington
with a variety of stars, and a smattering of creepy flesh-colored sex
toys was a box labeled “bisexual.” The contents were a bunch of Paul
Norman films – the “Bi and Beyond” series that kicked off in 1988. The
late 1980s through the mid-1990s were apparently the heyday for
bisexual porn – if a heyday can be considered somewhat prolific
production from one director.
I was a bit puzzled – this bisexual porn seemed to be kind of a
crappy afterthought (even in it’s heyday). The main thing that
distinguishes bi porn –then and today- from straight porn is the fact
that men touch each other in it; porn with girl on girl action is
essentially considered straight. And no one bats an eye if a female
performer who does scenes with other women says she’s straight; but
guys who do scenes with other guys are thought of as gay gay gay,
whatever they call themselves.
In addition to the dude-on-dude action, the Paul Norman films often
had “hermaphrodites” in them. In one of the films I saw, the so-called
hermaphrodites were biological women wearing flesh-colored strap-ons
with lots of concealer makeup so they kinda sorta looked like real
penises. If you’re feeling generous, you might be inclined to think of
these hermaphrodites as Havelock Ellis’ definition of bisexual - people
with the genitals of both sexes. Or you might think that Norman either
didn’t know MTF pre-op transsexuals exist or for some reason didn’t
want to hire them. I don’t really know the answer to that quandary.
In Norman’s films, the performers generally give the impression that
they are doing a job, and not one they entirely understand or think is
sexy. To his credit, Norman’s films were a thing unto their own -
bisexual porn. Since then, however, bisexual smut has been subsumed
into gay porn, despite the presence of heterosexual and girl-girl (I
hesitate to say lesbian) scenes. The porn industry seems to not at all
believe that bisexuality exists, rather that for guys its a stumbling
block on the way to full fledged gay, and that girls just want to get
attention (and paying porn jobs) any way possible.
In porn, girls do each other with a male viewer in mind, and once a
guy has done another guy rumors will fly about his sexuality for the
rest of his career - often he uses a different name for gay and
straight scenes. Many porn studios with contract girls don’t allow
their girls to do scenes in bi movies or with men who’ve done gay
scenes because of the associated stigma and the perceived risk of HIV
infection. Sex educators and sex toy retailers know better and
acknowledge a broader spectrum of sexuality, which is probably why one
of the few bi movies of note in recent years, Slide Bi Me, was produced
by the San Francisco-based Good Vibrations in 2001.
In 2006, when I got the opportunity to direct and produce my first
porn film, I knew immediately that I wanted to make a film that did
justice to actual bisexual experiences and identities (and I emphasize
that both of those are plural). I aimed to make a film that captured
some of the bi action I’d personally seen and participated in at
private sex parties in my hometown New York City. I had a wild ride
with The Bi Apple, which was released by Adam and Eve Pictures
in February 2007. It all started with a big party in a strip club,
which was followed by public screenings in Amsterdam, New York and
Berlin (as well as plenty of -ahem- private screenings), an award for
Hottest Bi Sex Scene at the Good For Her Feminist Porn Awards, a blurb
in Oprah magazine, and a nomination for the GayVN Award for Best
Bisexual Release. A lot of things about The Bi Apple don’t fit too well
with the bi traditions - it has a female protagonist and a female
director, and it features authentically bisexual performers, many of
whom were amateurs.
A few people asked me if I felt weird about being given a nod by
GayVN but being totally ignored by the AVN Awards, where niche award
categories like “Best Internal Release” exist but bi porn is invisible.
Honestly - no. I don’t really feel at home in either half of the porn
industry - the halves are the problem
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our sexual omniverse, our sexy friends at Guanabee have attempted to
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